Our Jackson was born in 2010 and I had always known I wanted to nurse my babies. Despite some having their doubts, I
nursed our little boy full time, round the clock until he was 18 months. It was
wonderful, other than the persistent thrush I had to battle for almost all of
the 18 months. Sometimes I think back to our nursing times, and miss it deeply.
I threw together a list of what exactly I miss for this post. My hope is that new
moms who are struggling with nursing will read this, and it will give them the
strength to push through the tough times. (I am in no way telling someone they
are less of a mother if they don’t nurse their baby. But sometimes all someone needs is a little encouragement. You can do
this).
12 Things I miss
about Breastfeeding:
1. Midnight snuggles-
Even though I complained about having to wake up in the middle of the night, and
it got old after a few months, I miss it now that it’s gone. It really wasn’t
that bad, because I got used to it after a while.
2. Being the sole
nutrition and food source for my baby- When I was nursing, I loved being
the only person who could feed my baby. I rarely pumped because I didn’t need
to, and because I could never pump much. I loved that the food I was feeding my
baby was fresh from the tap, and whole, and personalized to his needs. Now that
he is 3, and I have to actually prepare and keep track of what he is eating
it’s so much harder to make sure he’s getting everything he needs.
3. Milky baby smiles-
The best thing in the world to me was watching my baby pause to smile at me
while he was nursing. It was so sweet!
4. The convenience- There
was no packing of snacks, and bottles or cups when I was nursing. It was grab a
few diapers, wipes, and go. I loved not having to wash bottles, or prepare
anything beforehand for a trip.
5. That I could sooth
him, and calm him down instantly- If he was upset, hurt, scared, or overwhelmed,
all I had to do was nurse him, and he was instantly calm. Now it takes a lot
more patience and mental capacity to curve a tantrum, or make a boo boo better.
6. Weight loss- When
I was nursing, I was the smallest I had ever been. I ate as much as I wanted,
and looked good. Now, I’ve gained some of it back, and have to watch what I
eat. That’s not fun.
7. Being sick didn’t
last so long- When my baby had a cold I would just nurse him constantly,
and he would be cleared up in no more than 3 days. Now it can sometimes take up
to a week before the yuckies are out of his system.
8. The many many uses
for breast milk- Breast milk is good for so many things. I used it to clear
up pink eye, and an ear infection. I used it to heal cuts, and to moisturize
skin. It’s like a cure all. It’s a wonder that doctors don’t prescribe breast
milk as the treatment for many ailments. Really.
9. The conversations- When
I was nursing people were constantly asking me questions about my thoughts, my
experience, how it works, and many other things. I always tried to use those
times to educate people about the benefits of breastfeeding. I honestly believe
that many stereotypes are because people just don’t understand how it works,
and it’s not “normal” to them because they haven’t been exposed to it enough.
10. The boobs- I
loved my boobs while nursing! Now they are just a saggy mess.
11. It was an excuse to
keep my baby close to me- If we were out in public, or with a big group of
people and I didn’t want someone holding my baby, I would sometimes just say I
needed to nurse him. It worked like a charm every time. My baby also got over
stimulated very easily and wanted to
be close to me, so it worked out perfectly.
12. The rest- I
thought nursing was hard work. Until I had a busy toddler who could talk, run
away from me, and was too smart for his own good. Now that’s hard work. I’d be
so grateful to be able to sit down for 10 minutes every hour to cuddle my
child. I try now, and he just runs away.
I hope that reading my precious memories has touched different mothers in different types of ways. For the mothers who are currently nursing, I hope it highlighted the need to cherish every nursing minute with your little one. It does pass so quickly. & for the alumni nursers, I hope it has made you think of the precious moments and countless hours you spent nursing your little nurslings however long ago that was.
Tell me, what do you miss about nursing your little one? What is your most precious memory?
Oh my goodness! I know exactly what you are saying! I am now nursing my second and plan to do it a little longer this time. I missed being able to nurse my first one when she needed to be calmed down. I also missed being able to sit down for 20 minutes every so often during the day and nurse her. It was a much needed break that I took for granted. I love looking at my babies when they nurse and a smile breaks through! That is so darn adorable. I never knew anyone else found that so heart melting. And, oh my gosh, the weight loss. It is definitely a plus to breast feeding. Great article, Elizabeth!! I hope it encourages some of those struggling with bf'ing . I know we had a few huge obstacles at first too. I think I would have thrown in the towel if it weren't for my husband's encouragement. Then, I would have missed so much.
ReplyDeleteThanks Rebecca! My hopes are the same for this article. Sometimes all it takes is a little encouragement.
DeleteI think my favorite part was how easily and quickly it helped me soothe and calm him. After melt downs or boo-boo's, it was a life saver.
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DeleteGreat article. I am still nursing 7 months in and have had many struggles, some continuing, but it is so worth it!! Sometimes I cry with joy when I look at my precious little bundle nursing at my breast. Number 3 - the milky smiles - is my absolute favourite!
ReplyDeleteWhat I will miss most is the milk drunk baby who releases her latch and is out cold with her mouth wide open and a little milk dribbling down her cheek and knowing that she's satisfied by what my body provided to her <3
ReplyDeleteI will miss number 13... No menstral!!! LOL and the milky smiles!! 11 months and going strong!
ReplyDeleteMilky smiles are wonderful! Nursing my three month old boy, and your post makes the 'enjoy it while it lasts' comments make sense! Also love the handstrokes while he is feeding (except when his hand gets caught in my hair, which is cute but a bit painful!)
ReplyDeleteThe milky smiles, milky laughs, love pats, tiny fingers in my mouth or nose (lol), being his comfort, confidence in compete nutrition, this is so beautiful.
ReplyDeleteMilky smile. :) he smiles with a mouth full of boob lol and I have to hold my breast when I nurse so he strokes my hand and that is the most beautiful touch a mom can experience. :)
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